Published on November 11th, 2015 | by Richard Black0
One Million Misguided Moms
There’s a group called One Million Moms. It sounds so wholesome doesn’t it? What, after all, could be more nurturing and understanding than a bunch of mothers? The answer, it turns out, is the group One Million Moms.
Here’s a brief portion of the About Us section of the site:
Our goal is to stop the exploitation of our children, especially by the entertainment media (TV, music, movies, etc.). Mom, OneMillionMoms.com is the most powerful tool you have to stand against the immorality, violence, vulgarity and profanity the entertainment media is throwing at your children. It is time to fight back!
We are searching for one million moms who are willing to join the fight for our children. We want our children to have the best chance possible of living in a moral society.
…and by “moral” One Million Moms is referring to a strict and word-for-word interpretation of the Bible aside, of course, from the really useful portions that prohibit people from wearing clothes of two fibers (Leviticus 19:19), obeying your master if you’re a slave (Ephesians 6:5 NLT) or barring a man from entering the church if he’s been neutered (Deuteronomy 23:1 NRSV).
Most recently the group published a piece chastising American Girl magazine and the franchise as a whole for featuring a young child who was adopted by…gasp…a gay married couple.
The young girl’s name is Amaya and, in the story, she related her experience in foster care, the charity work her two fathers performed and how she found a permanent family on a farm with ducks and goats and chickens with her three other brothers. This is a scenario most reasonable adults would consider to be bucolic, an ideal setting in which to raise a child, unless of course you’re a member of One Million Moms.
Upon discovering that Amaya had been placed in a loving home with two men someone at One Million Moms got their chastity belt in a bunch. Apparently it’s preferable for a child to be bounced around the foster care system indefinitely instead of being placed in a home with two caring people who happen to be of the same sex. Here’s a quote from the group’s response to this blatant assault on ‘Murican values.
“American Girl is attempting to desensitize our youth by featuring a family with two dads. If your child has not seen this yet, then be careful she is not exposed and can avoid a premature conversation she is far too young to understand.”
It almost appears as if the women involved in One Million Moms believe that children might catch the gayness which, the last time I checked, wasn’t a communicable condition. It’s possible the group is speaking from some place of genuine but misguided concern, that the child of a gay couple would be more prone to be persecuted by his or her peers. More than likely however the group is really just against homosexuality. It really doesn’t matter which stance it is. Neither, in my opinion, is viable given what we know about sexuality these days.
The vast amount of legitimate studies preformed about sexuality have determined that one’s tendency towards the gayness or the straightness is largely genetic. This is greatly simplifying matters and there are many complexities when it comes to sexual preference. According the studies I’ve read few people are either “straight” or “gay” and most of us are on some sort of sliding scale. There is, apparently, some truth to the old joke about each of us being three beers away from having a go at a member of the same sex.
The crux of the whole “gay people shouldn’t adopt a child because the child might be persecuted by his peers” argument is bunk. It’s akin to saying that a black couple shouldn’t adopt a white child because the world is full of small minded racists. It is an argument based upon the false presumption that people and societies can’t change for the better.
Let me make this clear. Gay men and lesbians do not make their adopted children gay or lesbians. They don’t even necessarily endow their children with a decent sense of style or taste.
While a lot of us have gotten the memo regarding gayness in the year 2015 there are a frightening number of people who haven’t. I count the 81,408 people who “Like” the One Million Moms Facebook account among the unenlightened.
Fortunately Amaya and her two fathers have been supported by the public and the media while One Million Moms has come under scrutiny and largely been chastised. With a little luck the backlash against the group and their anachronistic views will make one of the One Million Moms think twice about publishing another piece that is woefully misguided if not overtly hateful, uninformed and bigoted.
Here’s the real question though. Who in the hell cares if a child adopted by two gay men turns out to be gay? I could be wrong but gays and lesbians aren’t inherently more or less inclined to be impoverished, diabetic, intelligent, employed, kind or anything else than the rest of us.
The fact that we are even having this discussion seems to imply that we think otherwise and that there’s quite a bit of work to do.